equalization

A interesting energetic pattern I've noticed lately is one of opposition in a relationship. There are times when my wife and I find ourselves in an interesting dynamic where one of us starts to head in a direction that has some sort of difficult emotional component for one or, usually, both of us. So in reaction, the other person starts to resist and head in the opposite direction. At some point, this dynamic assumes an energetic of it's own which is apart from whatever emotional components spawned it. At that point, we have to go through two steps: dealing with the difficult emotions, and removing the oppositional dynamic. These two are often related to one another, and are not always two distinct movements, but both need to be deal with.

What is even more interesting is that often, if one partner is still, even in the face of difficult emotions, the moment of the opposition will resolve itself before it spins into it's own energetic, and then the difficult emotions can be dealt with without the struggle. Though there are times when the oppositional dynamic is needed to power us and bring us forward into a new, better place. Those are times when we would not take such a strong or extreme stand if it was not in reaction to the other person, but that is the place where we actually belong. As the opposition resolves, we find a new equalization which is better (one hopes) for the two us.